Communicating with Spirit

When Spirit Knocks on Your Door, Was It Really Spirit? October 30, 2008

Many people tell me about their spiritual experiences.  Some people have spiritual visitation dreams, others see visions of spirit, and some hear the sounds of their loved ones as if they were talking to them within the mind.  Of course, most people who share experiences with me ask “Is this really spirit or my imagination?”  The truth is that it can be either a true spiritual communication or a fantasy of the imagination. BUT just because this is true, we should not run from our spiritual experiences just because it is not always possible to know for certain as to the validity of each experience. I use the words “each experience” as every time we have a spiritual experience, it is unique in some way, and I think in evaluating our experiences we have to look at them, one at a time.

For instance, there are times I hear the sound of my fathers voice in my mind. It is possible that in some of these experiences, the spirit of my father, who from my point of view is no longer “talking” in the same way he did when he was alive, is communicating to me in the manner that he as a spirit can communicate, and I am hearing this in the voice that was his when he was alive.  At other times, I may hear his voice in my mind, and it may be my imagination creating the experience. HOW CAN I TELL THE DIFFERENCE?  You may not like my answer to this question, but the honest answer is that I cannot always tell the difference.  That being said, there are some guidelines that I go by for myself, and I say myself as I am not ready to teach these guidelines for others as it is not clear that there are guidelines that apply for everyone. But for the moment, let me share my thoughts about my own guidelines and perhaps you will find it helpful.

When I am having a true spirit visitation in the form of hearing a voice in my mind, from my father or any other spirit,  the sound comes in a quick flash in my mind. I do not hear the voice in the normal rate of speech that we all as human being use when we talk to each other. It is as if there is this “flash” or moment of sound in my mind and I just have a knowing as to what was said to me.  The whole communication happens very fast, and has a very impersonal and non-emotional quality. When I use the word “impersonal” I could also use the word “universal.”  I do not mean that the communication is cold and without feeling, but the communication does not feel the same way to me, that it feels when a living human being talks to me.

So why do I think this kind of communication from my father is real? Because, when I do readings for people day after day, and have these experiences with their loved ones, I have this same instant “sound message” come to me, I have a knowing about what it means, and the client usually understand and verifies the information or message that has come through. My work as a medium teachers me day after day WHAT spirit communication feels like for me, in terms of receiving “sound.”

On the other hand, when I am very emotional and hear my father voice in my mind, I hear it one word at a time, the same way we would speak to each other.  In these cases, what I may be perceiving as a communication from spirit, does not feel at all impersonal (universal) and does not come to me instantly.  I am questioning these experiences and I am considering that in these cases, I may be creating what I would want my father to be saying to me in this moment.

My work as a medium has helped me a great deal to begin to separate what is a real communication and what is not.

But what are you to do if you are not a medium and if you are just beginning to have communications from the world of spirit?How can you know what is real?  I would suggest that you not stress out over what is real and what is not real.  My suggestion is that you be a healthy but open minded skeptic and allow yourself the understanding that life is continuous and so therefore it is possible for our loved ones in spirit to communicate with us. Also allow for the fact that we cannot always know if it is a real communication when we are having an experience with a spirit that is our own loved one. The reason we go to see mediums is because when the medium knows nothing about our loved ones, and brings information and messages that make sense, THEN we can know it is a real communication. But on our own, having our own experience, it is sometimes difficult for all of us (including me) to know what is real. This is why mediums go and have readings with other mediums.

Have several readings with good and experienced mediums so that you can over the course of these readings, get the proof that you need that the consciousness of each person lives on after the change called death.  This proof will help you alot.  Then when you have experiences of spirit on your own, write down your experiences with the world of spirit and over a period of time you may see a pattern to the communications that will help you understand when you have experienced a true visitation and when it is your imagination.

I believe that over a period of years, each one of you will come to have a knowing about when your loved ones are communicating with you.  Your explanation of when it is real and when you are creating the experience may be totally different than mine. That is why I have said that while I am sharing my experience with you and my guidelines, my thoughts may or may not apply to you.

Some of you might like me to be more authoritative about when an experience with spirit is real and when it may be a product of our imagination. But in this blog and in my life outside this blog, I like to share my process with people in an honest and open manner. I do not feel the need to have answered all the questions before sharing.   I am not going to sound dogmatic just for the sake of sounding like an authority.  As we explore the spiritual world it will always be an ongoing exploration and how marvelous it is if we can share our thoughts and journey together.

If you are looking for a quick and complete understanding of how the world of spirit communicates, I have not found one yet. There are incredible research projects, but somehow there are always objections to each project and how it was set up.  My applaud all those who conduct research on spirit communication, but in my own heart, feel that the world of spirit is beyond our human comprehension..

When spirit first knocked on my door, I spent years in a frenzy trying to figure out what was happening to me. I wanted solid answers and I wanted them RIGHT NOW.

At this point in my life, I have had enough experience, that I just know when I am in communication with the world of spirit.  It took many years to come to the understanding I have now.

Give yourself a break and enjoy the communications from your loved ones, even though once in a while it may not be a true communication. Accept that, and you can have a much easier time.  You do not have to be perfect.  You do not always have to understand how spirit communication works.  Understanding the spiritual world is an ongoing project and some of the best minds in the world have not figured it all out yet.

What are your thoughts about your own spiritual experiences?