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WANT TO BE A PERFECT PARENT? August 5, 2016

Posted by Carole Lynne in All About Spirit, Feeling Better, Grief, Love, mediumship, practical action, Spiritual Awakening, Spiritual Priority, Sri Aurobindo and the Mother, Uncategorized, Worries.
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HEALING THE PAIN OF REGRET ~  FROM A MEDIUM’S PERSPECTIVE

Painful photo? YES as the pain of regret IS very painful. Everything I have learned from BEING a parent and everything I have learned from the messages of apology that come through from loved one’s in eternal life to their children still living has taught me: there is no such thing as a perfect parent. And there is no such thing as a perfect human being. At least I have never met such a unique creature. ( In fact those parading around as perfect spiritual guru’s frighten me the most.)

SOOOOOOOO, should we stop TRYING because we can’t be perfect? If you say “yes” to that –  it is the same as being on a healthy diet, having something not so healthy to eat and then deciding all is lost so you might as well food binge for the next month.

FACE THE PAIN OF REGRET: Think about that ONE DAY that changed your whole life, at least it seemed like it did. You made a mistake. If only you could take that day back. The movie of that day plays over and over in your mind, year after year. This was a day you made a mistake as a parent.  There may have been other mistakes on other days, but this one day looms large on the horizon of your visions of the mistakes you made.

Do those mistakes matter now? Of course they matter now, but if you have faced your mistakes, have become a more balanced person, apologized for your mistakes, then it is high time that you FORGIVE YOURSELF even if you are not forgiven by others.

FORGIVE YOURSELF AND PERHAPS YOU WILL BEGIN TO FORGIVE YOUR OWN PARENTS

Were your parents perfect? Most likely not. Did they make mistakes that you have never forgiven them for in your heart. (It goes without saying that if you have been brutally abused you may not be able to forgive.)  But for the better part of us who had parents that ranged from close to perfect to emotionally abusive due to untreated mental illness or personality disorders: we have parents who loved us but who make mistakes that changed our lives in the same way that our mistakes changed the lives of our children.  It is amazing how we begin to understand and forgive the mistakes of our parents as we begin to understand our own mistakes AS parents.

As a medium I can tell many stories about the loved ones who come through in readings with very specific apologies to their living children. And as these loved ones in spirit are able to apologize it appears to me that they are able to move on in the never ending spiritual growth in Eternal Life.

YOU reading this, are still living and so you have the opportunity to apologize NOW.  You have the chance to forgive yourself NOW.

FORGIVE YOURSELF AND PERHAPS YOU WILL BEGIN TO FORGIVE YOUR CHILDREN

If you have children who have reached adulthood, have they been perfect children? Have they always treated you and other members of the family well? Most likely they have not as they are human beings like the rest of us and they are not perfect. As you forgive yourself for not being perfect, you may begin to forgive not only your parents, but your children.

And if your grown children are parents, most likely they will not become perfect parents as they are human beings and there are no perfect human beings.

I DISAGREE WITH MANY OF MY COLLEAGUES WHO BELIEVE EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON

There are colleagues in my field who believe that every thing we do, we do for the reason of learning, and everything that happens is meant to happen. I am not able to go along with that idea, and from my perspective there is absolutely no way to prove that concept. When someone is brutally abused I cannot accept that this was “meant to be.”

What I do accept is that we do not have control over all that happens in life. What we have more control over is how we respond to what happens.  And if we have behaved badly it was not written someplace in eternity that we were meant to behave badly. We must face our actions, cope with our regret, change our behaviors, and eventually forgive ourselves.  And if others have hurt us, depending on the severity of the circumstances, we need to find our way to forgiveness as much as we possibly can.

Let us focus on forgiving ourselves, and forgiving others. And while facing the regret, also focus on facing the reality that no one is perfect: I am not perfect, you are not perfect, they are not perfect. No one is perfect. Accepting our imperfect reality brings HEALING.

DEAR READERS: This post cannot possibly contain all of the many stories about different kinds of mistakes: mistakes we have made ourselves and the many ways we have suffered from the mistakes made by others.  Not even a whole book could include all of the mistakes human beings make. The topic of mistakes can be overwhelming, but we can make a start by accepting who we are as human beings and work to become better people making less mistakes.

 

 

 

 

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Finding the Spiritual Path February 8, 2010

Posted by Carole Lynne in Spiritual Awakening, Spiritual Priority, Sri Aurobindo and the Mother.
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Finding our true spiritual path is difficult if we only look at what society and others would ask of us, and we do not look within to the connection each one of us has with the Divine.  While it can take years of spiritual development to get in touch with the voice within, the best place to begin is with a willingness to listen to the inner voice: with an aspiration to become closer to the Divine.

This does not mean that we have to sit on a mountain top and contemplate, but simply be mindful as we go through our daily lives.  It means being mindful as we speak to others. How do we sound? What does our tone of voice sound like? What kind of energy are we extending to others with our tone of voice, words and body language? Are we being kind or irritable?

As we walk the spiritual path, we will find that many activities that used were appealing are no longer exciting.  We will find that some of the people in our lives do not belong with us any longer.   As we make changes in our lives, this does not mean that we have to leave our families or change our jobs unless we are feeling extreme discomfort. We can take our time to understand which life situations can be improved and which situations we need to leave.

I read many books by the Mother, one of the founders of the Sri Aurobindo Ashram in Pondicherry India.  I find great wisdom in her words, as I do in the words of the Sri Aurobindo.  Both of these great teachers are in spirit now, but they have left us many words to read and I believe they continue to work with us from the world of spirit.

Here is a quote by the Mother from “The Psychic Being” published by Lotus Press

“If we truly want to progress and acquire the capacity of knowing the truth of our being, that is to say, what we are truly created for, what we can call our mission upon earth, then we must, in a very regular and constant manner, reject from us or eliminate from us whatever contradicts the truth of our existence, whatever is opposed to it.”

If you would like to know more about Sri Aurobindo and the Mother visit the Sri Aurobindo website at www.sriaurobindosociety.org.in

Psychic Medium and Inspirational Author Carole Lynne

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I Prayed and Nothing Happened December 12, 2009

Posted by Carole Lynne in Carole Lynne reads Sri Aurobindo and the Mother, Spiritual Awakening, Spiritual Education, Spiritual Priority, Sri Aurobindo and the Mother.
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I love to visit the website www.sriaurobindosociety.org.in         For guidance, there is a link on the home page.  Click on this link and you will come to the guidance page, where you can ask a question in your mind, and then click for an answer.  The answers that come to me are always so relevant. 

This morning when I went to the site I asked, “What quote do I need to share with readers of my blog,”  and this quote by the Mother, one of the founders of the Sri Aurobindo Ashram, came up:

“Aspiration in everyone, no matter who it is, has the same power. But the effect of this aspiration is different. For aspiration is aspiration: if you have aspiration, in itself it has a power. Only, this aspiration calls down an answer, and this answer, the effect, which is the result of the aspiration, depends upon each one, for it depends upon his receptivity. I know many people of this kind: they say, “Oh! but I aspire all the time and still I receive nothing.” It is impossible that they should receive nothing, in the sense that the answer is sure to come. But it is they who do not receive. The answer comes but they are not receptive, so they receive nothing.. . .
 

When you have an aspiration, a very active aspiration, your aspiration is going to do its work. It is going to call down the answer to what you aspire for. But if, later, you begin to think of something else or are not attentive or receptive, you do not even notice that your aspiration has received an answer. This happens very frequently. So people tell you: “I aspire and I don’t receive anything, I get no answer!” Yes, you do have an answer but you are not aware of it, because you continue to be active in this way, like a mill turning all the time.”

– The Mother [CWMCE, 6:115]
  
 As I read these words, I am reminded to listen for guidance.  Just praying and asking for help does no good, if I do not do my part, by listening for guidance from the Divine. Each day I am learning to trust my inner guidance.
Psychic Medium and Inspirational Author Carole Lynne
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www.carolelynnecosmicconnection.com
www.sriaurobindosociety.org.in