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WANT TO BE A PERFECT PARENT? August 5, 2016

Posted by Carole Lynne in All About Spirit, Feeling Better, Grief, Love, mediumship, practical action, Spiritual Awakening, Spiritual Priority, Sri Aurobindo and the Mother, Uncategorized, Worries.
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HEALING THE PAIN OF REGRET ~  FROM A MEDIUM’S PERSPECTIVE

Painful photo? YES as the pain of regret IS very painful. Everything I have learned from BEING a parent and everything I have learned from the messages of apology that come through from loved one’s in eternal life to their children still living has taught me: there is no such thing as a perfect parent. And there is no such thing as a perfect human being. At least I have never met such a unique creature. ( In fact those parading around as perfect spiritual guru’s frighten me the most.)

SOOOOOOOO, should we stop TRYING because we can’t be perfect? If you say “yes” to that –  it is the same as being on a healthy diet, having something not so healthy to eat and then deciding all is lost so you might as well food binge for the next month.

FACE THE PAIN OF REGRET: Think about that ONE DAY that changed your whole life, at least it seemed like it did. You made a mistake. If only you could take that day back. The movie of that day plays over and over in your mind, year after year. This was a day you made a mistake as a parent.  There may have been other mistakes on other days, but this one day looms large on the horizon of your visions of the mistakes you made.

Do those mistakes matter now? Of course they matter now, but if you have faced your mistakes, have become a more balanced person, apologized for your mistakes, then it is high time that you FORGIVE YOURSELF even if you are not forgiven by others.

FORGIVE YOURSELF AND PERHAPS YOU WILL BEGIN TO FORGIVE YOUR OWN PARENTS

Were your parents perfect? Most likely not. Did they make mistakes that you have never forgiven them for in your heart. (It goes without saying that if you have been brutally abused you may not be able to forgive.)  But for the better part of us who had parents that ranged from close to perfect to emotionally abusive due to untreated mental illness or personality disorders: we have parents who loved us but who make mistakes that changed our lives in the same way that our mistakes changed the lives of our children.  It is amazing how we begin to understand and forgive the mistakes of our parents as we begin to understand our own mistakes AS parents.

As a medium I can tell many stories about the loved ones who come through in readings with very specific apologies to their living children. And as these loved ones in spirit are able to apologize it appears to me that they are able to move on in the never ending spiritual growth in Eternal Life.

YOU reading this, are still living and so you have the opportunity to apologize NOW.  You have the chance to forgive yourself NOW.

FORGIVE YOURSELF AND PERHAPS YOU WILL BEGIN TO FORGIVE YOUR CHILDREN

If you have children who have reached adulthood, have they been perfect children? Have they always treated you and other members of the family well? Most likely they have not as they are human beings like the rest of us and they are not perfect. As you forgive yourself for not being perfect, you may begin to forgive not only your parents, but your children.

And if your grown children are parents, most likely they will not become perfect parents as they are human beings and there are no perfect human beings.

I DISAGREE WITH MANY OF MY COLLEAGUES WHO BELIEVE EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON

There are colleagues in my field who believe that every thing we do, we do for the reason of learning, and everything that happens is meant to happen. I am not able to go along with that idea, and from my perspective there is absolutely no way to prove that concept. When someone is brutally abused I cannot accept that this was “meant to be.”

What I do accept is that we do not have control over all that happens in life. What we have more control over is how we respond to what happens.  And if we have behaved badly it was not written someplace in eternity that we were meant to behave badly. We must face our actions, cope with our regret, change our behaviors, and eventually forgive ourselves.  And if others have hurt us, depending on the severity of the circumstances, we need to find our way to forgiveness as much as we possibly can.

Let us focus on forgiving ourselves, and forgiving others. And while facing the regret, also focus on facing the reality that no one is perfect: I am not perfect, you are not perfect, they are not perfect. No one is perfect. Accepting our imperfect reality brings HEALING.

DEAR READERS: This post cannot possibly contain all of the many stories about different kinds of mistakes: mistakes we have made ourselves and the many ways we have suffered from the mistakes made by others.  Not even a whole book could include all of the mistakes human beings make. The topic of mistakes can be overwhelming, but we can make a start by accepting who we are as human beings and work to become better people making less mistakes.

 

 

 

 

MEDIUMS HONOR OUR TEACHER GLYN EDWARDS June 9, 2015

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Many of us who work as professional mediums have had a number of teachers who have influenced our lives and our work as mediums. Many who receive readings from us do not realize how important our teachers are to us. Most of us have had one main teacher and in addition have attended workshops with the best mediums around the world: many who seem to work in the UK.  Our beloved teacher Glyn Edwards made his transition to the world of Spirit May 31, 2015 and all of us who considered him one of our important teachers, are very sad indeed. While we know his spirit will live on in eternal life, we shall surely miss his physical presence.

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SUNDAY SERVICE DEDICATED TO GLYN

On June 7th we dedicated our Spiritualist church service to Glyn at the Greater Boston Church of Spiritualism. Rev. Mary DiGiovanni chaired the service, I performed the music and the speaker/medium for the day was a medium visiting us from Scotland: Reverend Sandy Campbell. Was it a coincidence that all there of us studied with Glyn?  Below is a picture of the three of us along with a woman who came to turn pages for me when I sang: Melissa Garlisi.

Right to left: Rev, Mary, Rev. Sandy, Rev. Carole Lynne and Melissa Garlisi. We had a beautiful service and we all felt the presence of Glyn.

Glyn: we thank you for all that you have given us and we know that you will continue to be with us as you work with us from the Spirit Side.

We send our love to all of your family and friends as well as to the many people around the world who call you “teacher.”

GOD SPEED GLYN EDWARDS.

Psychic Medium Carole Lynne

Author of:  ARE YOU PSYCHIC OR MAKING IT UP

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MORE THAN A MEMORY? January 25, 2015

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We all miss our loved ones who have passed on into the spirit world. And we have many memories. Some memories are good and some are bad. Just like life: sometimes good and sometimes bad.

As a psychic medium there are times when I experience a memory of a loved one in spirit, and I sense that it is NOT JUST a memory, but also a communication from the world of spirit.  How do I know that to be true?  Because when I do readings for others where I communicate with the spirits of their loved ones, whom I know NOTHING about, and the clients understand the information regarding the “memory” I know we are in contact with a loved one of theirs. The spirit is proving to both me and the client that this is MORE than a memory: it is a communication from spirit.OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERA

Treasure the moments in your life when you have great memories about loved ones who have passed on, or even loved ones living: whom you do not get to see very often. Whether your good memory is of going to Hawaii or Disney World, or hanging out at the corner grocery store or riding in the back of the van: treasure those memories.

And be aware that when you have memories of someone who has passed on, it may be a spiritual communication for you.

Psychic Medium Carole Lynne

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The Way We Were Then August 18, 2014

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One of the hardest challenges in life is accepting change and that things and relationships never stay the same. Of course we are joyful when the changes are wonderful and beautiful, but when the changes leave us feeling sad and alone, it is difficult to accept change.  When the changes are hard to accept, we want things to be “the way we were then.”  When we are in grief over change: be it the passing of a loved one, be it a change for the worst in a relationship or job, it becomes almost impossible at times, to move on into happiness once again.

Many of us become depressed as we are unable to accept that things are not the way they were, and in our lack of acceptance of the present, we miss all the beautiful things life has to offer RIGHT NOW IN THE MOMENT.

It goes without saying thaCarole Lynne Mauit when a death occurs, no one is going to be able to move into happiness for quite some time. But eventually, even when are in grief over the passing of a loved one, with time and patience, we will learn to accept our new life. We will learn to accept that things can never be the way they were then.

Acceptance and gratitude become our best friends when we are sad.

For many of us the anniversaries of the passing of loved ones or of relationships that ended, set off emotional upheavals. If we know that the anniversary of an upsetting event is coming up, perhaps we can plan something nice to look forward to during the time of the anniversary. In doing so we will be making a statement to ourselves, that even though it is a sad anniversary, it is the anniversary of something that did not happen today, but perhaps long ago.  TODAY we need to find happiness, even as we have sad feelings about the past.

Certain times of the year are more challenging than others.

Let us pray that all of us can find a way to find the blessings in life every day, mo matter what happened in the past. As we create more better days NOW, we are creating better memories to live with a week from now, a month from now and eternally.

Carole Lynne

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older-couple-walking.jpg July 9, 2013

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Yesterday the phone rang and it rang again, and each time I answered a call I received news of the passing of someone I know or someone close to someone I know. I also received news of a man who has just entered Hospice Care.  And as I went about my day living the life as a psychic medium, I received calls from clients who wanted to make appointments for readings in the hopes of hearing from their loved ones in spirit.  As I listened to the many tears in the voices of those who called, at first I felt overwhelmed and then I remembered that as we are all born we all die.  Life is a precious time and then it is over.

Awhile back I wrote a song called Roses.  Here is the link. http://snd.sc/ZVTwmd

This link will take you to sound cloud.  Click on the triangle in the orange circle over a song called “Roses”

This song is about life’s passages and when I listen to it, I am helped to remember and accept life and death.

 

Carole Lynne

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Why Trim the Tree When He’s Dying? December 11, 2012

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OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERAShe sat there by the Christmas tree with strands of tinsel in her hands, getting ready to put the tinsel on the branches, one strand at a time as her mother had taught her to do. Her husband lay asleep in the guest bedroom, the hospice nurse by his side.  Outside the snow fell and the branches were weighted down with the heavy wet flakes.

“Why” she wondered “should I bother to trim this tree.  He will not come into the living room to see it and the children live half way across the country.  Perhaps the hospice team will enjoy the tree.  I hope so.

The phone rang and it was a friend who was taking a break from the task of making arrangements for the remains of one of her best friends, to be scattered in the San Francisco Bay.  She talked to her friend, and they laughed about the good old days.  “Life is different these days, isn’t it” they said to each other.   Somehow they knew that even when they were in their sixties, life looked different. Now in the eighties, most of their friends and elderly members of the family were dying.  It was hard to explain what this was like to younger people, as you really do not know what it is like until you are living it.

As these two friends chatted on the phone, they were not depressed or morbid, because by this time they were coming into an acceptance of the nature of life and death.  They had by this time been through the passings of many of those close to them, and they knew how to cope now.  While it was not easy, it was the way things were these days and would continue to be.

When the phone call was completed, she went back to the tree with lighter heart and enjoyed putting the tinsel on the tree, one strand at a time. She smiled as she looked at the beautiful tree.  In a moment she would go in and talk with her husband and he would communicate with her as well as he could. Each second she spent with him these days was a treasure.

“Thank God for tradition” she thought as she trimmed the tree.  The tree gave her hope and was for her the past, the present and whatever the future held for her.

She went to sleep with visions of Christmas, the way it used to be when the kids were little. It was a pleasant memory.

Getting Through the Tough Times September 11, 2011

Posted by Carole Lynne in All About Spirit, Carole Lynne reads Sri Aurobindo and the Mother, Feeling Better, Grief, Love, practical action, Spiritual Awakening.
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You have not seen me for awhile because illness in the family has kept me from my usual writing: writing that I hope you enjoy reading, and that quite frankly I need to do in order to feel the best I can feel. Writing for me is an exploration of what is going on within, and I enjoy sharing all that with you!!!!  The patients are doing well now and so I am back at the computer keyboard.

GETTING THROUGH THE TOUGH TIMES

When people you love are ill and in physical danger you realize more than ever how fragile life is and that anything can happen to any of us at any moment.  This realization can either lead you into a life of fear, or serve as a reminder that each day is precious and must be lived to the fullest.  In other words, when faced with tough times, you and I can either take the high road or the low road.  We each have a choice.

One of the things that I find most helpful during tough times is to read spiritual literature that I love.   For me, reading the works of  Sri Aurobindo and the Mother are extremely helpful.   (They are the founders of the Sri Aurobindo Society in Pondicherry, India)

Here is a quote that I find particularly helpful:

An aimless life is always a miserable life. Every one of you should have an aim. But do not forget that on the quality of your aim will depend the quality of your life.

Your aim should be high and wide, generous and disinterested; this will make your life precious to yourself and to others.

But whatever your ideal, it cannot be perfectly realised unless you have realised perfection in yourself.

– The Mother [CWMCE, 12:3]

When I am feeling down and dealing with hardship, it is more helpful for me to pick myself up and accept the challenge.  I know that if I give into feeling sorry for myself it will be a downhill experience instead of an uphill adventure.  How can I use the word “adventure?”  That seems like a strange word to use when writing about going through very difficult times.  But when pushed into a difficult experience, I find myself facing things I have never faced before.  I have thoughts and feelings that are new.  I also feel the intense  support of the world of spirit around me and these spiritual vibrations send me into spiritual realms I have never visited before.  While I am certainly not having fun as I struggle, I do find myself on an adventure as I am in a new territory.

As the Mother in her words remind me: “do not forget that on the quality of your aim will depend the quality of your life.”  These words help me to take the high road rather than the low.   I am walking on a tight rope and the way I move each moment now is life changing. I will either keep my balance or fall. I prefer to keep my balance and find the new life that is evolving out of this adventure.

Psychic Medium and Inspirational Author Carole Lynne

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www.sriaurobindosociety.org.in

Ahhhhhhhh Security April 17, 2011

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Ahhhhhhhh Security.  We all want security. We all want to know that everything will turn out great.  Sometimes we are looking for a spirit to arrive riding a magic carpet and waving a magic wand.  These are the makings of great movies, but not the makings of real life.  Real life demands that each one of us take responsibility for our actions. Real life knows that we have to work hard for whatever we get, and sometimes we have to do things we are not crazy about doing.

A musician was talking about how his band has no jobs these days due to the economy, so he is working as a salesman in a department store because “sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do.”  This man’s broad smile is so radiant he could light up Grand Central Station in New York City.  While he does what he needs to do and even ENJOYS doing it, another person complains and complains, does not look for work, and ends up sleeping on the sofa of this friend and that friend.  This will continue until all the friends are used up.

The keys to security are: taking responsibility and doing what you gotta do, believing that things will get better, and believing in yourself.  Oh, and there is one MOST important key: laughter.  No matter what the occasion, there is always time for a laugh.

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Will We Meet Again? April 9, 2011

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All elderly people they were: chattering away, and had their little kids been in the room, or even their big kids starting to lose their hair and with widening waist lines, the stories might not have been the same. Comments would have been edited out before leaving the lips of a laughing eighty five year old. Sarcastic remarks might have not left the lips of a sparking ninety year old woman who takes perfect care of herself. They were all attending  a family event. People came from all around the country. What a wonderful week it was as they all shared stories and caught up on the gossip that had laid dormant for many years.  Oh what fun it was to talk about their children, their grandchildren, and in this day and age, their GREAT grandchildren.  Gathered around the dining table, and it was even nice not to have any little kids underfoot.   Plus any small kids might have tripped over walkers and the chords that led to the oxygen tank as they would not have been accustomed to watching out for so many life sustaining health aids.

It was time for everyone to go home. It took longer than usual for people to load their cars.  One 85 year old man with severe knee problems had to move a suit case slowly. Some slightly younger in the room were in conflict as they tried to decide whether to help him or let him have his pride.  No one helped him. Suitcase loaded, and having helped his wife into their car, which by the way he was prepared to drive for several hours, he came back into the room.  Across the room sat his sister who had traveled long and far to see the family.  His look became more intense as he approached her.  His arms went around her, and he fought the tears that he would never show anyone, clown that he is.  He hugged her with a longer hug than ever before, and slowly left the room, wonderful “will we meet again?”

As we get older and visit with our loved ones, the parting becomes bitter sweet as we do not know if we will see each other in person ever again. Yes we will be on the phone, and if we  have caught up with technology we will be on-line, on text, and maybe EVEN on twitter.  But our eyes may never meet again, and our arms may never reach out to each other in a long and intense hug. 

As a psychic medium, I know from experience, that we will meet again and be together eternally.   But life on earth is very special.   This story reminds us to visit each other as much as we can, even if we are younger and think we are invincible.  Life is fragile and one never knows.

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Psychic Medium and Inspirational Author Carole Lynne

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In Tough Times March 5, 2011

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In tough times I like to reading the writings of the Mother, one of the founders of the Sri Aurobindo Society. Her words help me to accept that life is difficult sometimes and I must handle all difficulties with patience and grace.

I keep this thought close to my heart.

Psychic Medium and Inspirational Author Carole Lynne

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www.sriaurobindosociety.org.in