Communicating with Spirit

Seven Tips for Changing Your Life March 27, 2011

Want to change your life? You CAN!!  Number 1: believe you can change your life. If  you do not believe it, then forget the whole thing and do not try to change your life.  If you can believe it, then proceed. Number 2: get out a notebook or open a file on your computer and list three things you would like to change about your life. When you get a good start on the first three, you will be adding more items to this list, but lets begin with three things you would like to change.  Even listing three things may be overwhelming at first, but if you can keep your sense of humor, you CAN get through this step.  As you make this list, keep in mind that it may take many years to accomplish everything on your current and future lists, but if you believe you can change your life, you will.  Now come now, be realistic and do not put things such as “win a million dollars in the lottery” on your list.  List goals that are realistic. 

Now proceed to step 3:  Accept that you and those around you may not like the changes you are about to make.  For instance, if one of the things on your list is to give up smoking,  at first you may not enjoy giving up smoking (THAT is an understatement!)  and your friends who smoke will not like it when you give up smoking, however much praise they may heap on you. Deep down inside your smoking friends want you to smoke so that they have a smoking buddy.  As you stop smoking, your smoking buddies may be confronted by their own addiction, and that is not alot of fun.

On  to step 4:  Give yourself a talking to and accept the fact that all of life is not about what you like, dislike and what you want.  Yes, you may want a cigarette, or whatever else it is that may not be any good for you, but what is more important, your health or your desires?  I know a young woman who can hardly breathe these days, but she is bound and determined to have that cigarette, because she WANTS it and of course is addicted. This woman needs to make a decision to get professional help in order to change her life. But SHE has to make that decision that what she wants each day is not as important as finding a way to do what is good for her in the long run.

If you are now reaching step 5, you are ready to start enforcing the DO IT NOW button in your brain, in your left toe, in fact everywhere within you your mind-body and spirit.  In this step you will need to train yourself to take the actions that are in harmony with the changes  you want to make.  For instance if you have been sitting around like a couch potato watching TV or playing computer games, when you need to look for work, you need to push your DO IT NOW button and get off your you know what, and out the door to look for work.  Yesterday is gone and tomorrow is too late: DO IT NOW, NO EXCUSES. 

Or if the change you want to make is physical, such as losing fifty pounds, you need to DO IT NOW.  Losing weight is a moment to moment challenge. You need to go to the store and buy the right foods, cook them and eat them. In the moment, you need to say NO to ice cream and yes to a lovely plate of steamed veggies, which by the way can taste heavenly with a small amount of Smart Balance and some shredded parmesan cheese.  (Yummy)  IT IS IN THE NOW that you need to say no to eating something that someone in your family has spent a whole day slaving over a hot stove just for YOU.  To prevent such dramatic confrontations, tell your loved ones you are going to lose weight and tell them what you can or cannot eat. In this way your family cook is forewarned and if he or she makes something for you that you have already said you cannot eat, then guess what, it is the cook’s problemo, not yours!

Step 6:  When you reach step 6 you are well on  your way to changing your life. You have been changing your habits, and now unfortunately (or perhaps fortunately for some of you) you are going to need to make changes in your relationships.  Like attracts like, so if you are not hanging out with positive people who want to make healthy and positive choices, then it is time to start hanging out with more folks who do want to make positive changes.  This does not mean you should leave your family, but find the members of the family to hang out with the most, who will be helpful to you as you change your life.  And watch what happens: as you change yourself for the better, many of those folks in your circle of family and friends, will follow your example. It may take a year or two, but you could be the leader in  your circle of loved ones to turn things around.  If you may a change, you become a role model for others. Do NOT preach to others: just change your life for the better, and speeches will not be necessary.

Yippee we are at step 7:      Step 7 is simple: a no brainer.  Keep on doing steps 1 through 6.  In other words, step 7 is all about keep on truckin”!”  Keep believing in yourself.  Keep knowing that the God of your understand is there for you and can help you change your life into a better life.

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